How to Move Out of Self Loathing

When I try something new, if I don't get the immediate results that I want, I immediately think there's something wrong with me, that I suck, that no one likes me, and on and on until I'm in such a deep spiral that it's hard to see back out.

I get the feeling you're nodding along, agreeing with me because you've been there, too. So first, I want to say, I'm sorry that you know how that feels. It is not a good feeling, at all.

Second, how can we move out of this phase of self-loathing faster? Chances are that we might not be able to stop these feelings completely, but how can we move through them quicker? There are a few things that I remind myself of when this happens and I wanted to share them with you today in case you find yourself in this same space anytime soon.

How to Move Out of Self-Loathing Faster

1 - (and most important) I remind myself that I am not my accomplishments. Period. End of story. Our value, our worth, our enoughness, is not determined by what we accomplish in a day, a year, a lifetime. Truthfully, this is the hardest lesson for me to remember because, as an Enneagram 3, I base a lot of worth on my accomplishments. But it's a lie. I am valued because I am Sarah.

2 - I remind myself that new things may take time to blossom. For the most part, we're all afraid of change. And because of that, if other people are involved in this new thing of yours, we have to give them time to adjust and to see it.

3 - Lastly, I remind myself that no matter what, I took a shot. I tried something different, I put myself out there, and I tried. It's so easy to stay within our comfort zones, but when we put ourselves out there, no matter the end results, we're a new person because of it.

Every single step that you make leads you to something new, and a chance to be who you've always dreamed you would be. So take the risks, give it a shot, put yourself out there. And let's see what comes back.