5 Signs You Need a Self Worth Coach

Deciding to invest in something new, to try something you haven’t before, can be incredibly scary. Taking the next step and asking for help is sometimes even scarier than dealing with life the way you’ve always dealt with it. But aside from that gut feeling of knowing that something needs to change, there are some other signs pointing you in the direction of working with a coach.

But first, what is a self-worth coach?

As self-worth coaches, we go by many names - self-esteem coaches, confidence coaches, etc. But the core of what we do is help our clients identify the negative thoughts they have in their minds, and then work to quiet them. I want my clients to be able to talk nicer to themselves so that they can get everything that they want out of life. I help my clients focus in on themselves and who they are so they no longer need the outside validation to make them feel like they are enough.

Here are five signs you need a self-worth coach:

1️⃣ You have goals, but you're stuck in knowing how to actually achieve them

One of the easiest signs to recognizing when it’s time to work with a coach is that you keep setting goals and then feel totally stuck when you’re trying to go after them. Your wheels are spinning but you don’t know what to do to take the steps to achieve the goals. You get down on yourself because you assume you just aren’t capable of hitting your goals.

I work with my clients to help them not only identify the actual goals they have (not just what they think they should want), but figure out the baby steps to achieve them. Plus, I regularly check in with clients on their goals as their built in accountability partner.

2️⃣ You can't seem to stop beating yourself up over mistakes

You know when you’ve just done something great and your first reaction afterwards isn’t one of celebration, but instead you’re cataloguing all of the things that you messed up? Or when you’ve just yelled at your kids and now you can’t stop feeling like you’re the worst mom on the planet? Or you’ve gone on what you thought was a great date and now you’ve been ghosted so you’re taking mental stock of all the things you’ve done wrong? This is when a coach comes into play.

I work with my clients to not only help them see that 1) they are human and humans make mistakes, but 2) how none of this makes a difference when it comes to who you are as a person. We work through each of these so-called “failings” to identify the root cause of the feelings, and then figure out how to move through them so you can be gentler to your humanity.

3️⃣ You need a safe place to talk honestly about what you're going through

I know firsthand that there is a lot that happens in our lives that we don’t even want to talk to our closest friends and family about - maybe because our thoughts and feelings are about them! Or maybe we just don’t feel comfortable expressing our deepest feelings to the people in our real lives. Being open and vulnerable with the people who know us best is incredibly scary. And sometimes, we just don’t have those people in our lives that we feel comfortable going to.

I make sure that I provide a safe, non-judgmental space for my clients so that they can be completely honest and completely themselves. Inside of our sessions, I give them the space to say exactly what they need to say, however they need to say it. Having someone to both hear and see you is incredibly powerful.

4️⃣ You're sick of feeling like you're not enough no matter what you do

One of the biggest things women struggle with is not feeling like they’re enough. We’re always chasing some idealized version of what our lives should look like (according to society, our parents, or other people in our lives.) And when you are just tired of trying to be who you think you should be and always feeling like you’re falling short, this is a great time to work with a coach.

I help my clients identify not only where they feel like they’re falling short, but what they actually want out of life. And then we examine all of the thoughts and feelings they’re having that make them feel this way, where these thoughts are coming from, and then how we can move them past this to see that who they are right now is already enough. We seek to remove the outside validation so many of us feel like we need to be “enough.”

5️⃣ You want to look in the mirror and be proud of what you see

All women deserve the opportunity to look in the mirror and smile at who they see - not just physically (though that can be a huge part of coaching as well), but at who they are as a person. Right now you may be seeing someone who needs to lose 20 pounds, who is lonely, who is never going to get that promotion you want. Coaching can help you recognize that the person you already are is worthy of smiling at.

I work with my clients not only on their body image and loving their body as it is now, but also to be proud of who they are aside from things like what their hair and nose look like. My goal with my clients is that when they see themselves at the end of the day, they can smile at her, and be proud of who she has become.

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These are just a few of the first signs that it’s time to work with a self-worth coach. You don’t have to live this way anymore. You can take that next step to feeling better about who you are and what you have going on in your life. And working with a coach is that next step.

I believe in you and what you bring to the world.

Let me help you see that, too. I’ll be by your side every step of the way. Get started by clicking the link below and learning more about working with me as your self-worth coach.